During my student days I spent a year and a bit in Southern France near Nice. Armed with nothing but
- my mountain bike,
- the slightly misguided notion that doing an engineering degree in French surely couldn’t be that difficult (despite not speaking French) since the language of engineering is mathematics and
- the fortunate discovery that after a beer or two, neither my French colleagues nor I did mind that I didn’t speak French, and we somehow managed to communicate anyway.
Now, a beer or two in the evening is all very well, but since I didn’t want to turn into Raj from the Big Bang Theory every time I wanted to talk to a girl (or my tutor, or the check-out lady at the local Carrefour), I decided to take some French lessons. And discovered the most unusual phenomenon: whenever I learned a new word, suddenly, this word which had not existed in my Universe, was everywhere! I mean EVERYWHERE. Everyone was using it all the time. And before that little big bang, it simply hadn’t existed. (how the French can exist as a nation still is a mystery to me, since clearly they had to rely on ME to discover new words for them ….;-) Anyway, there’s a similar concept I’d been struggling with for a long time, and the answer had been staring me in the face all the time, but I never saw it, until it suddenly materialized in front me, thanks to an email conversation I recently had with Kim Roach of www.buzzblogger.com The question I’d been struggling with was simply this: WHY do so many people struggle to ‘make it’ online? WHY, despite all the courses out there, are people still stuck? WHAT is the one thing that’s holding them back more than anything else? And the answer – the one that had been staring me in the face, because I can see it in pretty much every email I get, and so many coaching calls I do – is this: It’s ‘confidence’. The confidence that you’re doing the right thing. The confidence that what you’re doing will get results. The confidence that what you’ve got is ‘good enough’ (and it’ll help people) Really, this confidence issue exists at 3 levels, each successively closer to
your ‘ego’, or ‘having to put yourself on the line’ (and risking looking like a fool). And we can go into those 3 levels another time, but the big question right here is this: The big assumption (or advice) from many gurus out there is this: Take massive action, you’ll get results, this will grow your confidence. And that’ll get you to take more action. All very well, but the reality I observe is one of a hellish hamster-wheel, running round in circles trying to muster the courage to take that first big piece of ‘massive action’. And never getting there. More like the opposite: the more often you don’t take action (after e.g. buying a course that tells you how incredibly easy it *should* really be), the lower the probability of taking that massive action. If it were learning French, the answer would be easy: another bottle of beer for you and your prospects, and boom, no more anxiety of getting out there and ‘doing it’. if only it weren’t so expensive to get all your prospects beered-up… what’s YOUR take on taking “massive action”? Veit PS: ok, ok, I have a solution in mind, and it’s closely linked to the concept of a TROS. More next time;-)